Signaling Decisiveness

As a product leader, you’re often navigating a space where formal authority doesn’t exist. Your influence is built through relationships and the respect you earn from your team, stakeholders, and peers. In this dynamic, how you carry yourself—what Sylvia Ann Hewlett describes as "gravitas" in Executive Presence 2.0—plays a significant role in how others perceive and respond to you.

Hewlett breaks gravitas into four essential components:

1. Projecting intellectual horsepower.

2. Displaying confidence and credibility.

3. Signaling decisiveness.

4. Maintaining grace under fire.

I’ve explored the topic of projecting intellect and expertise before, but we’ll focus on a less-discussed aspect of executive presence: decisiveness.

Decisiveness in Product Management

As product managers, we make decisions daily—about priorities, feature trade-offs, user experiments, and future research. These decisions shape the product’s trajectory and, in turn, the success of the business. To confidently communicate these choices to stakeholders, we must have self-assurance not only in our judgment but also in our ability to make those decisions quickly and effectively.

We’ve all experienced the pitfalls of indecision. When we delay making a choice, the situation often forces a default outcome upon us—typically not the one we’d have chosen. Avoiding this requires mastering the ability to make swift, informed decisions.

Gaining Confidence Through Information

One key to fast, confident decision-making is having access to trusted information that you can quickly digest and apply. Everyone processes information differently, so finding your ideal method for gathering insights is critical.

Some ways to gather the necessary information to confidently decide your product’s next steps:

1. Qualitative User Feedback – Mine your existing user feedback or lean on your UX team’s insights. Understanding the real-life experiences of your users is vital to making informed choices.

2. Internal or Quantitative Data – Build a strong intuition around user behavior by analyzing the numbers. Metrics often reveal truths that anecdotes can’t.

3. Experience with the Product – Use your own product like a customer would. Understanding the user experience firsthand gives you an invaluable perspective.

4. External Market Trends – Keep an eye on competitors, industry shifts, and broader consumer patterns. This will help you predict what’s coming and position your product accordingly.

5. Financial Modeling – Work with your finance or business partners to evaluate how various decisions might impact the bottom line. Long-term success often hinges on understanding the financial ripple effects of today’s choices.

6. Prototyping – Create mockups, sandboxes, or prototypes. Experimenting with different solutions can help you see how they perform in practice and make more informed choices.

While it’s impossible to cover all of these areas for every decision, pulling information from a few can lead to a decision that’s "good enough" to move forward.

The Role of Intuition and Circumstance

Of course, decision-making isn’t purely an intellectual exercise. As product managers, we juggle competing priorities, unpredictable constraints, stakeholder politics, and shifting business goals. Sometimes, our choices are influenced by factors beyond the data—like gut feeling or external pressures.

Even so, when you’re grounded in reliable information, you can navigate those complex variables with greater confidence. Decisiveness becomes less about bold assertions and more about informed, thoughtful action.

Leading with Influence, Not Authority

At the core of product management is the need to lead through influence. You don’t have the luxury of positional power; your authority comes from the expertise and trust you cultivate. Decisiveness is a key part of that influence. When your team and stakeholders see you making informed, timely decisions, it builds confidence in your leadership.

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STAND-UP EXERCISE

Discuss with your team how they typically make decisions, or how they might feel forced to make decisions. Of the methods discussed above, which ones are applicable to their learning style, the product, and the business. What other ways might they collect information to make better informed and quicker decisions?

Bonus: Learn about the framework of one-way door and two-way door decisions. Jeff Bezos explains the philosophy in this video.

Projecting Expertise

In Sylvia Ann Hewlett’s book Executive Presence 2.0, she breaks down EP as an amalgam of qualities that true leaders exude, a presence that telegraphs you're in charge or deserve to be. Through extensive research and interviews with executives, she has determined that the largest component to EP is gravitas. Gravitas is how you act and affects much of how others perceive your intellect. The ability to project intellect is an important skill for product leaders who are looking to gain respect and cultivate influence. Most product managers have extensive expertise, but they might need some coaching or framing to be able to project that within their organization.

There are a couple ways in which product managers especially should be able to project expertise in their product, users, and objectives.

1. Know your stuff cold. You should know the salient details of your product strategy, user journey, stakeholder requirements, etc. by heart, being able to recount them fluently without much filler or stammering.

2. Be able to go 6 questions deep. Be able to answer questions at the root of the issue or topic - have the context necessary.

3. Read the room. That means tuning yourself out for a moment in order to tune in to the needs and wants of others. Then you can course correct on the spot to establish a connection. You want to make your audience comfortable so that when you speak, they hear you. You aren’t compromising your message, you are calibrating it.

Product managers very rarely lead by position, it is most often through influence, which is based on relationships and expertise. To garner the respect necessary to lead without given authority, product managers must be able to project their expertise and intellect to others in a convincing manner. That is a learned skill all product leaders should develop.

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STAND-UP EXERCISE

Product team members may not feel like they are experts, despite their extensive knowledge on a subject. (In fact, the well-documented Dunning-Kruger effect shows a cognitive bias exists where people with limited competence in a particular domain overestimate their abilities, and high performers in the domain tend to underestimate their skills.) Use a stand-up exercise to illustrate to team members that they do have expertise.

Ask team members if they feel like they are an expert in a domain. You’ll likely get a combo of yes and no’s. Then, ask each team member to write down five topics that they could speak on for 10 minutes without any advance preparation. You could have this be open to any topic, or attempt to narrow it to professional topics. This exercise is entertaining to see what topics team members generate (and a good get-to-know-you activity!) but also creates discussion on how easy/hard it was to compile the list. Do they feel like an expert in these domains? Would they be convincing to an audience speaking about these topics?

Supporting Introverts on Product Teams

Extroversion is praised within American (and similar) society. People who speak the most, process thoughts out loud, or are very social often get a lot of attention, and it is typically positive. They often appear more confident or assertive. Extroversion can be a proxy for competency.

But it wasn’t always this way. In Susan Cain’s book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking,” she traces the history of valuing extroversion to the changing society of the industrial revolution. American values shifted when we moved from distributed agricultural communities and migrated into larger metropolitan areas. As members of small, close-knit communities centered around farming and family, society placed value on inward traits like work ethic, integrity, and kindness. But the new industrial cities created more anonymous environments, and the ability to stand out or have your individual ideas heard became more important. Extroversion was realized as a positive trait. (Susan Cain also has an excellent TED Talk on the power of introversion.)

Introversion and extroversion may be opposites, but most people fall somewhere on the spectrum between them. The exact middle would be defined as an ambivert, a true balance of either end. Introversion or extroversion also may depend on a person’s environment or familiarity with a group.

Regardless, the goal of a product team is to empower all members of the team to actively contribute. We are also always looking for team members bringing a variety opinions and outlooks, and having a diverse team in terms of personalities is beneficial. Having introverts on the team can balance the more outspoken personalities. Introverts can also bring a level of thoughtful deliberation and depth of perspective, where extroverts may be quicker to act.

However, just having diverse personalities on the team is not enough - you must accommodate everyone’s communication styles to encourage their participation. In addition to psychological safety, there are other ways to create a more inclusive experience for all personalities, especially in our meeting-centric business environment. Generally these accommodations lead to more thorough and thoughtful discussions and decision-making.

• Collaboration Tools - I am a huge proponent of Miro, but any collaborative virtual space can do the trick if it provides real-time commenting in multiple modes. Polling during a meeting can also be helpful here.

• Collective Brainstorm prior to discussion - Many of my stand-up prompts follow a similar format of asking a question of the team, providing an opportunity to answer individually (usually through stickies on a board) and then coming back together to discuss. Even if all ideas don’t get discussed, they are usually all read, and will be recorded in meeting artifacts.

• Agendas! - Letting meeting attendees know what topics will be discussed or what decisions will be made provide those people who need a longer deliberation time to do so prior to the meeting starting.

• Asynchronous “meetings” - Beginning a dedicated discussion thread via Teams or Slack allows team members to answer once they are confident, or to decide on the correct wording before sharing.

• What else? Brainstorm more accommodations with your team through the stand-up exercise below.

And, perhaps one of the best considerations of all personalities is simply making space for them. Paying attention to the different needs and preferences of everyone - and valuing those individual differences - creates a culture of respect and acceptance within the team. That leads to better team health, and happier team members - regardless of personality.

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STAND-UP EXERCISE

Ask your team to take an introversion/extroversion quiz to see where they might fall on the scale. I had my team use this one from TED.

In our stand-up, we discussed results by polling based on the quiz result. Then, they answered the question of their own accord, placing a dot on a spectrum of where they felt they landed between extrovert and introvert both in their professional life and their personal life. Discussing how these roles flipped for folks between the two environments was very interesting.

We ended with a brainstorm and discussion prompted by the question “How can we better accommodate team members along all points on the scale in meetings / ceremonies / work streams?” The goal is to incorporate those ideas into our product team meetings.

Supporting Users with Micro Interactions

Any product should not only provide utility or interest for users, but also support them in their interactions. One way to do that is through the use of micro-interactions - small indicators or animations used to communicate meaningful feedback to the user. This supports the user in a more intuitive, engaging, and efficient experience with the product.

Also, it is just a human tendency to expect something to happen when you click a button, scroll a page, add an item to the cart, swipe left on a card, etc.

To be defined as a micro interaction, it should be triggered by the user or the system AND give feedback on an action. A simple gif or animation is not a micro interaction because it is not triggered by the user. A button by itself is not a micro interaction, unless it provides feedback when the user clicks/taps. A video player is a feature, but the volume control slider within it would be a micro interaction.

For more examples of micro interactions, and a brief explainer on Dan Saffer’s triggers and rules, check out this article by UserPilot.

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STAND-UP EXERCISE

After learning about micro interactions, ask your team to come up with examples from the products they use (or competitor’s products, potentially). Are these delightful? Do they make the product more intuitive or efficient? Are any of them exceptionally on-brand (or maybe off-brand)?

Then think about your own product. Are there areas where a user could feel more supported in their interactions with the interface or process? Is there information that could be better or more holistically communicated? Is there an area where you can reinforce the natural desire for feedback?

Inspiration via your 5 senses

Inspiration can come from a myriad of places, but often we don’t take the time to cultivate it. The author Gretchen Rubin encourages us to understand more about our five senses, and which ones we might be neglecting, as a key to unlocking more inspiration in our lives. She says, “When I started work on my book Life in Five Senses, I hoped that by tuning in to my five senses, I’d find a new source of energy, love, luck, mindfulness—and creativity. But I was unprepared for just how sparked my creativity would get! I found that when I paid greater attention to seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, and touching, I ignited my imagination and my desire to create.”

By making intentional direct contact with the world through our range of senses, we can find more inspiration. Sometimes to the key to the mind is through the body. In an extreme case, some folks experience synesthesia, where stimulating one sense can trigger a seemingly-unrelated sense. For example, a sound creates a specific a color. An article simply titled Sensory Inspiration in Avant Arte explains how some artists throughout history have had almost superhuman sensory inputs and responses.

But you don’t have to be super human or call yourself an artist to solicit more inspiration from your five senses. Gretchen Rubin makes the case that just determining your most neglected sense and leaning into it can unlock inspiration. She’s created a 5 Senses Quiz to help folks identify their most neglected sense, and then provides novel ways to engage it. For example, if your neglected sense is smell, maybe find a flower shop to literally stop and smell the roses, or if it is hearing, change up the tone of your phone alarm.

Enhanced inspiration and creativity is not just for those in the design field. Creativity helps with problem solving, cultivating a growth mindset, and empathy - all traits any product team can benefit from.

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STAND-UP EXERCISE

Ask your team to take Gretchen Rubin’s 5 Senses Quiz. Compare results. Were you surprised by which sense was most neglected? Do you agree with the results? What are some ways you can “awaken” this sense more in your day-to-day?

Then just share sources of inspiration with each other. Where do you typically turn when you need a boost? A specific site / substack / podcast? A place like a museum or library or park? A person? An activity? Is that with people or on your own? Create a mini-catalog of inspiration for each other.